Asserting your right to be thin
Lesson 6
Asserting Your Right To Be Thin
Identifying the Diet Saboteur
Have some more lasagna or Split a piece of pie with me. Have you ever wondered why the people around you become your worst enemies the moment you decide to diet? Why is it that people feel so uncomfortable? Do they wonder if the new you will like the old friend? Do not be afraid to assert your right to be thin. Help those around you understand how their actions influence you and give them suggestions for being more supportive.
Four Steps to Use When Asking for Help
State the problem areas and situations with which you need help or support.
Explain how you feel about the problem and why you need help with its resolution.
Detail the action you wish your supporter to take.
Results describe to them the results that you expect.
The Politics of Power
Unfortunately, many relationships are based on power and control. When efforts at weight reduction threaten to tip the balance of power in a relationship, sabotage often results. The diet saboteurs are comfortable with your relationship as is and are reluctant to see it change. You need to recognize the wolves in sheeps clothing and assert your right to be thin.
Overpowering the Diet Saboteur
When they: Bring you gifts of food
You Should: Assert your right to be free of temptation. Your needs come first.
When they: Urge you to eat
You Should: Guilt is powerful. Your refusal to eat is NOT the problem here.
When they: Eat your favorites in front of you
You should: Refuse to be manipulated by this friend. Get away.
When they: Leave your favorite food out
You should: Tell them you will not tolerate their attempt to sabotage your diet.
TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE
Being true to yourself means not having to settle for anything. Settling is comfortable. When you are comfortable, you are less likely to experience rejection. On the other hand, settling inevitably results in a lack of fulfillment.
Weight loss signals control. Weight loss also signals a readiness to come to terms with your personal fears and insecurities. Overcoming obesity is a major feat. As with recovery from other addictive behaviors such as gambling and alcoholism, weight loss is an active process - a long and multifaceted process of change. It will not occur overnight.
Gene C.
Asserting Your Right To Be Thin
Identifying the Diet Saboteur
Have some more lasagna or Split a piece of pie with me. Have you ever wondered why the people around you become your worst enemies the moment you decide to diet? Why is it that people feel so uncomfortable? Do they wonder if the new you will like the old friend? Do not be afraid to assert your right to be thin. Help those around you understand how their actions influence you and give them suggestions for being more supportive.
Four Steps to Use When Asking for Help
State the problem areas and situations with which you need help or support.
Explain how you feel about the problem and why you need help with its resolution.
Detail the action you wish your supporter to take.
Results describe to them the results that you expect.
The Politics of Power
Unfortunately, many relationships are based on power and control. When efforts at weight reduction threaten to tip the balance of power in a relationship, sabotage often results. The diet saboteurs are comfortable with your relationship as is and are reluctant to see it change. You need to recognize the wolves in sheeps clothing and assert your right to be thin.
Overpowering the Diet Saboteur
When they: Bring you gifts of food
You Should: Assert your right to be free of temptation. Your needs come first.
When they: Urge you to eat
You Should: Guilt is powerful. Your refusal to eat is NOT the problem here.
When they: Eat your favorites in front of you
You should: Refuse to be manipulated by this friend. Get away.
When they: Leave your favorite food out
You should: Tell them you will not tolerate their attempt to sabotage your diet.
TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE
Being true to yourself means not having to settle for anything. Settling is comfortable. When you are comfortable, you are less likely to experience rejection. On the other hand, settling inevitably results in a lack of fulfillment.
Weight loss signals control. Weight loss also signals a readiness to come to terms with your personal fears and insecurities. Overcoming obesity is a major feat. As with recovery from other addictive behaviors such as gambling and alcoholism, weight loss is an active process - a long and multifaceted process of change. It will not occur overnight.
Gene C.
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